Birthdays..How many do you have?

      Many of you may think this a strange question. As for me, not at all. As I sit here with an excruciatingly painful toothache I've pondered this question.
      On January 1st of this year a friend came by to celebrate her 50th birthday with us. I grilled chicken outside with shrimp scampi as an appetizer. And yes, we were able to grill outside on our one warm day before the unbelieveable cold hit Florida. As a joke I made a banner that read "Happy 21st Anniversary of your 29th Birthday". As we age we seem to try and forget the most important day of our lives. In fact it is really the only day that matters, for without it we would cease to exist.
     As for me, I celebrate 5 birthdays. Yes my biological birthday is very important, but so are my transplant birthdays of which there are 3, plus my donor Susie (the only one I know). Many prefer to call their transplant birthday their anniversary, which has little logic for me. After all wasn't I given the Gift of Life?
If not for those transplants I would not be alive writing this today. Those who've had an organ transplant, know the emotions that go hand in hand with being a recipient. This Gift of Life can turn the hardest person into emotional mush. I can say this with clarity, because I was afraid of nothing before my first transplant. If my car broke down on a dark road, I'd walk home (this was before cell phones). Now, no way would I do this  and so foolishly run the risk of my donor families hearing I took this chance with what I was given.
    I remember a newspaper article that ws done on me in 1991 post transplant. In this article I stated I intended to enjoy each and every wrinkle and grey hair I get. So far so good. I' getting them. I'm tolerating them. I'm not doing anything about them. I will age gracefully with all my scars, wrinkles and grey hair completely intact.
    Now that this is written I can decide which will be more excruciating. The toothache or the cost of the antibiotics to make it go away.. Either way I will feel the pain, believe me.

By the way... My friend dropped me a thank you card for her celebratory dinner. She thanked me for making her "29th Anniversary of her 21st Birthday" so much fun.. Guess she wanted to be younger still

Being thankful

As we go into Thanksgiving here in the U.S. I always think back to all I am thankful for.
Please take a moment in your busy holiday, look around at all the happiness, trials, and family,friends in your life. In one way or another you are BLESSED.
  I've spent a few Thanksgivings and other holidays in the hospital. If you're a candidate or a recipient you can relate to this. We don't like it, but it is a fact of our lives either way. We learn to grin and bear it so to speak.
If you are a transplant candidate:
 Be thankful there is medical technology offering you the possibility of a new life.
 Be thankful we have surgeons, physicians, and coordinators who have the knowledge and caring to learn more and help you achieve your dreams through transplantation.
 Be thankful there are families who love life enough to donate in their time of extreme loss.
 Be thankful there are organizations out there promoting organ donation and helping you receive your new chance.
Be thankful there are recipients to boost you up, keep you hoping, and helping you along the way. If they did it, you can too.
 Most of all, be thankful we have a  higher power, who  will listen calmly, without interrupting, let you cry your eyes out until you are exhausted. Then lift you up so you can continue your fight for survival.

If you are a recipient:
Be thankful for all the above, and NEVER forget what it took to get where you are.
Never lose sight of the most precious life you've been granted.
Remember your donor/s and their families. You are here celebrating another holiday thanks to them, while they have an empty seat at the Thanksgiving table.
Be thankful for EVERYTHING, good, bad, and otherwise. If not for the miracle of transplantation, you would not be around to enjoy any of lifes ups and downs.
Make a solemn vow to promote organ donation to at least one person a week. Remember someone was promoting transplantation when we were waiting. It's only fair to take care of those waiting behind us.


As everyone looks around the Thanksgiving table tomorrow, be thankful you are here.
Thanks to a donor, a donor family, a transplant center, your doctor and the wonderful coordintaors who keep us positive.

Have a Blessed and wonderful Thanksgiving everyone. Be safe, be positive.